So many people out there are crying out for help in their marriages and are in dire need of some real marriage help. I know that the divorce rate is greater now than it has ever been but there are thousands upon thousands of couples out there who ultimately want to stop divorce from happening. How does one go about seeking help and how do they know what program or counselor is really going to work for them?
From my understanding, people try using a marriage family counselor and most of the time end up right back where they started at square one. Most counselors make you dig up your past and practice communication techniques, and the reality of it is, is that doing that has a tendency to stress couples out even more so than help them. I am not saying that I am against counseling but I have found more of a helpful solution for saving your marriage than just your typical counseling routine. It’s called Marriage Fitness.
You can check out marriagemax.com for more in depth details about it. I’ve been studying up on it and the results are outstanding. It seems that after people go to their counselors, pastors, psychiatrist’s etc. for help then they always come down to that one issue of not knowing how to love their spouse the way that their spouse wants to be loved. People always want to get, get, get and receive the love without giving, giving, giving it.
What this specific program that I recommend teaches you is how to compassionately love your partner and to learn new relational habits that will stick with you throughout your whole lifetime. Marriage is not an easy thing to withstand. As the old saying goes Only the Strong Survive. So many couples just want to take the easy way out and call it quits before actually going the extra mile and seeking out the proper help needed for the relationship.
I think some people might feel a little embarrassed about going to a marriage counselor. I used to know a couple suffering miserably in their marriage and would always ignore the fact that getting marriage help was what they really needed to do. They were definitely the type of people who cared about what everyone thinks more so than their own happiness. That is insanity to me.
Yes, counseling is a humbling process for any couple who is on the verge of divorce but the truth is that people will respect you even more if you are seeking out help rather than if you are hiding from it and negating it. You are more of an admirable and respectable person when saving your marriage becomes a top priority.
I think people just need to be shown what to do and how to do it rather than what not to do and what they are not doing. Loving your spouse will come naturally to you, and after receiving the right marriage help that is necessary for you both than you begin to feel a deep sense of compassion for each other and then start to look at one another through a new vision of love. My friends, the right help is out there for you if you just seek it out.
My advice to anyone who is at their ends in their marriage is this, if you truthfully want to stop divorce from ever being an issue than go to the extent of trying out a Marriage Fitness program. The only way to have a successful marriage is to learn how to love yourself and then you can harmoniously love your spouse. Learn how to build your Character. Character is who you are when no one is watching.
Posted on October 31st, 2008 by admin
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